Problems dating chinese women
But while dating seems to be on the rise, marriage is still unusual—thanks to political differences that are often irreconcilable, according to the women I spoke to, who were all between 21 and 25, prime age to start looking for a husband in China.
Unlike some other young couples, Jean said, they talked a lot about serious topics, including Chinese politics.
“I wondered how he thought as a foreigner,” she said, and her ex wanted to know the same.
But these discussions in part ended the relationship.
It is certainly much more common for Chinese women to date foreign men than in my parents’ generation, thanks to Chinese nationals heading overseas for schools and foreigners flocking to Beijing, Shanghai, and other big cities to learn Mandarin and add Chinese experience to their resumes.
The latest data, from a 2010 population census, shows more than 600,000 foreigners dwell in China, and 56% of them are male.
Jean said her ex always criticized the Chinese government “with a set of democratic thinking,” and without putting the discussion “in the historical context.” When talking about the 1937 Nanjing Massacre, in which China claims 300,000 were killed by the Japanese army, for instance, her ex said “the Chinese government is not completely innocent.” He went on to challenge the death toll, even after Jean cited official documents, which annoyed her. “I understand democracy no less than him,” Jean said.